There is no doubt, that many would agree: Marriage and Love are NOT the same thing. Even in an age where-in it seems that religious values have greatly eroded, many still believe that marriage is a healthy and important institution — but it absolutely, depends on whether the people getting married are suited to each other.
There is no such thing as “A Good Wife” or “A Good Husband” — per se. There is only “A Good Wife” for “Mr. A”, or “A Good Husband” for “Miss B”. If a credulous woman marries a pathological liar, they may live together, happily, to the end of their days — one telling lies; the other believing them.
A man who can not live without constant admiration should marry an “Oh! You are so wonderful!” type of woman. If he is not able to make up his mind, he would be right in marrying a “Dictator”. One dictator may prosper in marriage; two are too many.
The way to matrimonial happiness is barred to no one. It is all a matter of choice. One should not look for perfection. Instead, one should look for the complementary part of a very imperfect “other half”.
If someone buys a refrigerator — that person would never think that it is a “bad” refrigerator, simply because he or she can not check their emails on it. Nor does that one blame his or her car for not being able to mow the lawn, or prepare his or her taxes. But many people who are very fond of their stomachs may think it is a good idea to marry a cook, and then blame that one for (possibly) not being as radiantly intelligent or witty as they would have hoped.
Or — a man who thinks it important to show off his wife’s beauty and elegance, may end up marrying “A Trophy-Wife“, but then be disappointed to find out that (perhaps) she has no balanced views or interests in international affairs or other such things.
All-too-often we are shown the stereo-type, on television and in the movies, of a man who marries a girl who is young and pretty… simply BECAUSE she is young and pretty — only to find, in 10-years-time, that she is no-longer so very young or pretty.
And for the ladies — we often see the trope of the woman who marries a man, simply for the size of his… bank account (what did you think I was going to say!?!?!). But then sadly find out that this same man, has no interest in loving her, or caring for her children — or even knows how if he did. And in the worst-case scenario, perhaps he ends-up being an abuser. This is certainly not a complementary match.
At one point in the not-so-distant past — it was generally thought that marriage was supposed to be forever. Therefore, one should “know what he or she is buying” before jumping into such a long and expensive commitment.
As long as one does not expect to check their email on their refrigerator, or mow their lawn with the car, then — prehaps — one may be able to find a suitable mate… someone who can be an equal (or at least complementary) partner… and then “Happily Ever After” may not be such a fairy tale after all.
What Do You Suppose These Phrases Mean?
“…they may live together, happily, to the end of their days…”
“…A man who can not live without constant admiration…”
“…an “Oh! You are so wonderful!” type of woman…”
“…he would be right in marrying a “Dictator”…”
“…One dictator may prosper in marriage; two are too many….”
“…The way to matrimonial happiness is barred to no one…”
“…one should look for the complementary part of a very imperfect “other half”…”
“…people who are very fond of their stomach…”
“…one should “know what he or she is buying” before jumping into such a long and expensive commitment…”